Take Your Time: Thoughts and Encouragement for the New Year


I feel like the last week of December is a peaceful, fun time, as we’re enjoying that final bits of Christmas without the bustle of getting ready for Christmas. A time to take a moment to cling to the last remnants of the year, before school and work and life take over once more. But then January 1st hits and it’s like the lulling roll of the train screeches to a sudden halt and you must leap out with the crowd and run, run, run or you’ll be behind, the whole year will be ruined, everyone will be ahead of you.

That’s how it felt like for me this year. Usually, I take all of December off from writing, and a lot of other things, and enjoy a good break before diving into a new set of goals come the new year. But this particular December, though fantastic in many ways, ended up being pretty stressful, and did not prove to be the laidback, gloriously lazy month I had planned. First of all, the whole first week was spent finishing my NaNo novel in a flurry of (way too many) words. So I really didn’t even get started on my December break until the second week. Secondly, because NaNo took up like…every waking second of my November, I was woefully unprepared for Christmas and suddenly it was almost here and I had next to no gifts for anyone. So the next couple of weeks of December were spent in a rush getting all the Christmas-y things done. Really, all the last three months of 2018 proved to be pretty stressful and tiring.

Then, next thing I knew, 2018 was over. New Year’s hit, and my social media feeds were exploding with messages of “start the year strong” and people diving straight into huge projects, writing thousands of words in a day, reorganizing everything they owned, making gorgeous journals with their entire year planned out. And I’m sitting over here like…can I just take a nap?

Usually, I love New Year’s. The idea of a clean slate, of new possibilities, of unknown adventures ahead, new goals to write down and work toward—it thrills me! But this year? When January 1st hit, instead of excited, I was depressed and overwhelmed. I was not ready for my December break to be over. I did not feel refreshed, had no motivation, and hadn’t even thought of my 2019 goals.

I kind of poked around at things, tried to be productive, but I wasn’t feeling it. But but but it was the NEW YEAR. I had to jump right into things. The year goes by so FAST. I didn’t want to waste a single second. If I didn’t jump on a giant year to-do list that second, I’d be a failure. Right?

*DEEP BREATH*

The answer: No. There was no sense in trying to force everything on myself at once, when I wasn’t even sure what all I wanted to accomplish this year. When good sense finally returned to my thick skull, I decided there would be no harm in taking just one more week off. Just because so many others were being ultra productive that first week of the year, DID NOT MEAN I had to. We all work at our own pace, have our own limits. I was falling into that toxic comparison game, like I so often do, and just stressing myself out for NO REASON.

So I took another week off. And it’s amazing what just seven days of no pressure to be productive can do for the mind. Instead of forcing goals on myself, I subconsciously started figuring out exactly what needed to be accomplished this year. Instead of trying to squeeze out social media/blogging content and hating doing it, I started to itch to get back into the social media world. Instead of never having any desire to touch a single one of my stories ever again, I began to desperately miss them. As a result, once the week was over, I was raring to go, was able to sit down and make a list of 2019 goals in no time, slap out a blog post, and get prepped for editing Burning Thorns.

Because here’s the thing: You really DON’T have to hit the year running. After all, New Year’s is just a week after Christmas. And maybe you had a stressful holiday, maybe you need a little holiday from your holidays. Maybe you need some time to recover from the Christmas craziness, some time to mull over your year and make plans, before diving straight into doing ALL THE THINGS.

I think we have in our heads (or at least I know I do!) that we’re going to get woefully behind on all our plans if we don’t get a jumpstart on them the second the calendar changes to a new year. Because a year goes by so FAST. And it feels like there’s just not enough TIME. Ever.

But you know what? If you start the year burned out, how are you going to keep going for the next 365 days? That’s what I was about to do. After heavily plotting NaNo during all of October, doing NaNo in November and through part of December, and then running around like a headless chicken trying to get things prepped for Christmas, I was TIRED. I was in no way ready to jump on a ginormous list of goals. 2018 was a craaaazy and productive year. I used up every ounce of creativity I had.

I needed rest. But wouldn’t I be wasting time if I didn’t get started on things right away? Actually, no. Starting 2019 already burned out creatively would be wasting the entire year. A year spent creatively drained would be a way bigger waste then taking 7 measly days out of 365 to refuel myself.


Here we are over halfway through January already, and you may be stressed out because the first month of the year is almost over, and you haven’t gotten a good start on your goals. Maybe you’re wondering how it’s all going to get done. Maybe you feel like a failure because it seems like everyone else is already marking things off their list of goals, and you haven’t even touched yours. Maybe haven’t even made year goals yet.

STOP. Stop worrying and stressing and comparing. I’m here to tell you IT’S OKAY. I give you 100% permission to take a breath, release the guilt.

I know it feels like the years fly by, and yes, we’re already past halfway in January, but you know what? There’s 11 months after this one. And countless more years ahead. YOU HAVE TIME. It does not have to be done at once. I’ve been falling back into Stressful ModeTM myself because I haven’t accomplished everything I had hoped to by this point. But does that mean it won’t get done? NO. There is time. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, THERE IS.

Whether you’ve attacked your goals with full force, haven’t touched them yet, or maybe haven’t even made a list of goals, there is NO NEED for guilt. Don’t make the mistake I almost did and burn yourself out before the year really even gets started. We’ve got lots of amazing months ahead. Let’s not waste them stressing.

Back in 2017, I really learned to SOAK UP THE MOMENTS. And I think it’s a lesson I need to relearn. Not every moment in life is meant to be spent being productive. I’m a perfectionist and a workaholic, which results in soooo much of my life spent in front of my laptop getting All The Things done. But sometimes taking time to read a book or watch a movie with my siblings is 1000x more important than getting a blog post written. It’s something I have to remind myself again and again and again. And as we set foot in this new year, I’m, once more, trying to drill it into my thick skull.

Yes, I have a lot of ambitions for 2019. But I also don’t want to waste the moments. To miss out on precious times with the people I love or just letting myself take a breath for the sake of scratching something off my to-do list. I am far too often enslaved to those to-do lists, to the superficial things in life, instead of the things that truly matter.

If you’re like me, and have those to-do lists cracking their whips at you, or have guilt eating away as each day of the new year passes without it being spent in hours of productivity, let it all go. Shove the to-do list in the closet, take a breath, and know THERE IS TIME. Instead of hitting the year running, take a leisurely walk into 2019.

Give yourself grace and take your time. I promise you’ll be glad you did.

 

TALK WITH ME!

Am I the only one who gets eaten by guilt when I don’t start the year off ultra productively? Who else struggled to get it going this year? What are YOUR tips for fighting off those beginning-of-the-year blues? I would LOVE to hear them!

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Florid Sword
January 21, 2019 6:03 PM

This is a genuinely timely post, Christine. I've been so overwhelmed the last couple of weeks with trying to put my life together, make a schedule, really accomplish things…and I think God is saying, "My darling, it's not your time for that." And it hurts! I'm trying to get my life in order, aren't I? But…life itself is more important, mess and all. And hard though that is to see, I think it's a lesson I need to learn. Wonderful post–thank you <3

Savannah Grace
January 21, 2019 9:59 PM

YES to this post! I am the literal QUEEN of burnout (because who pushes themselves too hard almost all the time? Oh … it me xD), so I totally relate. I actually was sick when the New Year rolled in, which I think was God's way of saying "LOOK – IT WON'T KILL YOU TO /RELAX/, SEE?", and then kindly forcing me to take a break from slaying myself with responsibilities. I so totally needed that ;D. Loved this post, Christine! <3

Julian Daventry
January 22, 2019 12:20 AM

I'm actually chilling for a bit. 🙂 My first book is being edited, so I'm just relaxing and catching up on piddly things and reading until I get it back. Then it'll be back to work and doing the final (hopefully) tweaks. But for now, I'm not trying to get much accomplished. Just enjoying the new year (and despising all this cold).

Emily G
January 22, 2019 1:14 AM

I so agree– giving yourself time to recharge (any time of the year!) is so important. Also allowing yourself grace when you don't get 100000 things done. I've learned that I'm the happiest and most satisfied with myself when I have a routine and devote time to the different things I want to do each day; but I've also learned that sometimes that stuff doesn't get done and it's OKAY! It's so easy to put so much pressure on yourself and yeah, sometimes you need pressure to not be lazy and ignore your goals, but it's so important to allow yourself time for rest for your body and mind.

A lovely, thoughtful post! And I'm sure lots of people needed to hear it. 😉

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Emily G
January 23, 2019 3:19 AM
Reply to  Emily G

"Just shrug and try to do it the next day"– that's EXACTLY the same thing I have to keep reminding myself! When I don't complete a to-do list I feel like I've wasted time, and maybe some days I have, but how much I complete today does not make or break me, haha!

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Eleanor
January 22, 2019 1:22 AM

OKAY CHRISTINE THIS IS SUCH A GREAT POST. I reaaaaaally needed this reminder. Thank you <3

Eleanor | On the Other Side of Reality

Deborah O'Carroll
January 22, 2019 2:16 AM

I sooo relate and feel this way and thank you for this timely post! <3 I definitely hardly ever give myself permission to just rest and recharge–I always tell myself that I can after I finish my to-do list which (surprise, surprise) never actually happens. 😛 I have certainly not felt like I've been able to accomplish much this month and honestly still feel super burnt-out from the last three months of 2018 myself–vacation, NaNo, and Christmas-season, while all AWESOME things, left me kind of worn out. Three months into the new year and I feel like I'm a failure because I haven't managed to figure out plans and goals or to start working on them, and it doesn't help that I feel chronically behind (or at least three-months-behind. XD). It doesn't mean I'll actually do something about this but I SHOULD, so thanks for the timely post and the reminder that it's okay–to breath and slow down. Last week I literally wrote on the front page of my bullet journal: "Peace, be Still. You have time. Breathe, just breathe." I'm not doing very well about implementing this, but your post really touches with that and I'm trying to remember to slow down and not stress as much. We'll see how I do. XD Thank you! And I hope you are able to take your OWN time and breathe and relax and not stress yourself this week, month, or year. <3

Deborah O'Carroll
January 22, 2019 2:17 AM

*three WEEKS, not months. (*shakes head at self*)

Keturah Lamb
January 22, 2019 6:01 PM

Great post! I have unique ideas about Jan 1st, anyway. I never treat it like a special day because I believe EVERY day is special. Thus I try to make sure I live fully each day. I have goals and breaks, but those don't follow a calendar but my life. I really love that you took the time you needed. Don't feel guilt, but fueled to tackle whatever you have for yourself!

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Sarah Seele
January 22, 2019 10:34 PM

So um…THANK you for this. I'm not really into New Year's plans or goals or anything but like…with a new semester starting and life stuff that kind of happened to coincide with the new year, it's like I have EVERYTHING to do ALL AT ONCE. And it's good to be reminded that it's okay to rest. (Also I love how energetically you write about resting, haha.)

Jenelle Leanne
January 23, 2019 12:11 AM

What a fabulous post! Thank you for sharing! I usually do start the year off feeling ultra behind (usually because we spend so much of December traveling and we get back and just kind of have to hit the road running, so to speak). But since we didn't travel for Christmas, December was far more laid-back. I wrote a little, but spent most of the month just doing things with my family… reading… watching Christmas movies… and wondering where on earth all the Wisconsin Snow has gone and whether we are going to get any winter at all this year. (Still wondering… sigh)

So I've actually managed to spend January NOT running around like a headless chicken (or worse, a legless one… ahem, inside joke, sorry) LOL Which has been a nice change of pace. But this reminder is so good, and so timely, as I look at February and start panicking because I've overscheduled myself with February is Fantasy Month and trying to do it differently this year and not sure how it's going to go PLUS I idiotically decided to do a read-along at the same time…. so I'm stressing a bit and I'm not sure how it's all going to get done… but… one day at a time. One day at a time.

Skye Hoffert
January 23, 2019 1:51 AM

I've been feeling a little burnt out myself, so this was such a good post to read. I think I will let myself take a break, it's needed.

GJE
GJE
January 23, 2019 8:21 PM

Great post!!! <3

I really haven't felt TOO behind this year. I mean, between my sister's digestive issues and overall LIFE, things have been pretty busy, but I've managed to keep caught up in MOST of my school and writing.

Thank you for your prayers, btw. LHE is feeling much better. She went to the doctor, and he's ordered some blood tests. He doesn't think Lily's issues are very urgent, too, so that's a good sign. Hopefully we'll have some real feedback next week.

I went to get some blood taken yesterday and fainted. LOL. MOST people faint because of SEEING blood, but I was so anxious that my veins wouldn't even GIVE blood. I don't know what's up with this newfound fear of needles, but I've been so anxious about it.

Please pray for peace, my friend. Life has been getting to me a little, but I'm trying not to let it. :/

Thanks again for your prayers. Love you so much, sis. <3

Jameson C. Smith
January 27, 2019 3:10 AM

This is such a great reminder and encouragement! I've been having to remind myself that it's okay to not know exact deadlines for every. single. goal and to-do list item this year, but it's still a struggle sometimes! So thank you for such a great post! Also, your photos are soooooo pretty!

I hope you have a lovely and restful January (and year!)!

Victoria Grace Howell
February 1, 2019 1:18 AM

I used to feel this way before I started taking an annual 2-3 week hiatus during the holidays. I’m the same way. I can’t start the year stressed. Burnout is way worse than being a little late on goals.

Lisa Pickle
February 4, 2019 11:31 PM

bless you, child. I struggle with this no matter what time of year it is XD